“How do I deal with conflict in relationships?”

Debra (Debi) Yvonne Simmons
2 min readAug 9, 2022

I go within and see if I have something I need to release.

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If another has a different path I need to accept that.
No matter how close they are to me or how I long to keep them near me.

Separation is not a reality so there is no reason to be upset if they take a different path on the way Home.

If it is one where we are meant to cohabitate which is something I have not done (intimately) except for a few months in 14 years I would like to think that I would celebrate differences, even of personality or political ideology as a way that God expresses Himself through them for purposes I may not understand.

Negativity is something that I cannot abide in that kind of relationship because joy is the purpose of my being and the only thing that I choose to embrace.

I did have many experiences as a roommate through those years and I found that I withdrew into myself and my own space. It seems that expression of what I can see that others may not want to admit at this time was not welcomed as the assistance I would have liked it to have been. Instead, it exasperated the situation making it larger.

ACIM does a lot to help me understand why this happened. I cannot change another’s perception of themselves or of me. And once I know it has a negative spin I know that I do not want to be a part of tearing down them or me because to me that is tearing down God, Himself because He is the Creator of all that is.

I daydream of possibilities and Spirit says to “keep an open mind” and do not “close the door on what life can offer”.

I have faith in humanity and I am learning to see what I see in the world and know that the “first” picture I “see” will be ego-beliefs that are unreal and knowing that God and so many guides and angels have my back (even if sometimes my body does not because my back locks up over emotional issues with my adult children for some reason).

My trust in God is such now that even my physical responses that declare negativity have no “reality” in my mind because I know that God IS, He is the Creator and NOTHING outside of God’s Will is real.

So I move forward one step at a time with hope and the promise of a bright experience where God, Himself will reveal Heaven to me instead of hell.

There is always hope when life is eternal.

Till next time, God bless, debi.

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Debra (Debi) Yvonne Simmons

Atonement, His (Christ’s) Story, Three Temptations: Addiction, Power-Hunger, and Depression, “Seeing” Truth in the “Unseen”, Living Above the Chaos C U there :)